"Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna" (lukielauxd)
05/17/2014 at 14:19 • Filed to: None
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"Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna" (lukielauxd)
05/17/2014 at 14:19 • Filed to: None | 1
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Hello.
So context really quickly. I'm a second year college student in the Fall. I'm 19. And I act like a 12 year old who really doesn't want to leave his parents. So after getting a summer research job (which my professor even allowed for me to start two weeks late so I get more time with my parents in California before I go back to Oklahoma) and I got so homesick coming back (dear god what's wrong with me) that on my layover in Dallas (which took 4 freaking hours because the airport was closed TWICE) I started emailing California professors left and right in an attempt at the last minute to find a way to stay in California with my parents.
So today I got a response from a professor at Cal Poly Pomona for seismology which is like barely related to Petroleum Engineering (but I'm trying to make sure the pipe doesn't break from earthquakes tho omg lulz) and it'd be a volunteer intern position for no monies compared to my summer research which is $1,700-$1,540 for housing-$400 for airplane ticket= -$240 woo I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
My dad told me not to burn bridges and to go back to Oklahoma and we'd face time more but I'm literally going to be bawling when I get on the plane this time compared to just sniffling when I went back in Winter Break.
What do you guys think I should do?
And lastly M5, on my list of cars I definitely want to own one day but I don't want to "own" if you know what I mean.
IDROVEAPICKUPTRUCK
> Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna
05/17/2014 at 14:25 |
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Do not go back to California. You'd look like an idiot to your professor and likely screw him/her over because they held that spot for you and now they would have to find someone new. Certainly not for an un-related unpaid job. Building relationships with your professors in college is incredibly important so they will act as references for you. By going back to California you are potentially torpedoing all your goals, because that reference could make the difference between getting a job and not getting a job.
Don't be dumb, listen to your father.
Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis
> Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna
05/17/2014 at 14:31 |
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While I dont have the same homesick issues it sounds like you are having I am probably going to end my sophomore year by going to Missouri and getting an internship there. And while its not my first choice, internships are worth their weight in gold these days. And with the advent of Skype and and facetime and all sorts of stuff like that you can be more connected with people than ever before.
If this is something that is super relevant to what you want to be doing, go for it. You will regret your choice of not going if you go dont in the future. Remember, learning to be independent is a huge part of college. And this is just another way to learn that skill. And when its all over, you will still have your family to go back to.
DoubleDragon
> IDROVEAPICKUPTRUCK
05/17/2014 at 14:31 |
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adding on to the post before
You are not being dumb, you love your family but do the position if your research work is not dangerous.
And then spent a lot of time on your family relationship, like working at it in your offtime because it seems you love them lots. Now that you are going to not be at home, you have to work on the r.ship so when you are done you can go back home, resume your old position in your home and get a job there.
And your parents will still accept you as if you never left. Just dont let stress ruin your r.ship (call home and blame parents for making you leave)
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IDROVEAPICKUPTRUCK
> IDROVEAPICKUPTRUCK
05/17/2014 at 14:40 |
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Also don't forget that if you really want to work in Oil and Gas you're not going to be able to do that in Berkeley. The closest you'll be able to get is Long Beach and that is a remote chance as best. Texas, Louisiana, Denver, Oklahoma, North Dakota, Calgary and Pittsburgh. You will end up in one of those places in all likelihood and you're not going to get summers off or a month off for the holidays. I've worked in the oilfield for the last 3 years. In that time I've worked Thanksgiving and Christmas for the last three years, New Years 2 of the last 3 and my Birthday 2 of the last 3. I haven't seen my family since October. This is the reality of this industry sometimes, you'd better prepare for it now or it'll be much worse later.
yamahog
> Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna
05/17/2014 at 15:05 |
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With all due respect, you gotta get over the homesickness. This is the stage where you're supposed to be leaving the nest for good. Your dad is right, go for the experience and money and cut the apron strings. Don't forget to contact Cal Poly to tell them thanks but you have to decline due to a prior commitment.
Make some friends in OK and enjoy your summer.
Textured Soy Protein
> Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna
05/17/2014 at 16:03 |
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Warning in advance, this is going to sound harsh, but this is what you need to hear.
You're nineteen fucking years old and crying about not being able to facetime with your daddy enough? What the fuck? I was homesick once: when I was 10 and went away to summer camp for the first time. One night I felt sad, my counselor cheered me up, and that was the end of it.
When I got to college, the last thing I felt was homesick. It was more like FUCK YEAH MY PARENTS AREN'T AROUND TELLING ME TO DO MY HOMEWORK AND OTHER BULLSHIT! I AM FREE AT FUCKING LAST!
College is the time when you learn to be a goddamned fucking grown ass person. Grown ass people are self sufficient. They have jobs, pay their bills, go to the grocery store, clean their house, make doctor's appointments for themselves, and are generally functional members of society.
The whole reason you're in college and in this program is to get a job, right? Well good. Then do what you need to do to to get a job, which is this internship in Oklahoma that you already signed on for.
If you feel sad because oh boo hoo daddy and mommy are HUNDREDS OF MILES AWAY WAAAAAAHHHHHHH then you're just going to have to get over that shit.
Because if you don't, you're going to turn into some over-entitled asshole millenial who thinks it's a good idea to bring daddy along on job interviews, or have their helicopter parents call hiring managers after interviews. You know how many times in the history of job interviews someone who pulled that crap, ever got hired? Zero times, ever.
That's great you love your parents. My parents are pains in the fucking ass. I can only take them in limited doses. But I guaran-fucking-tee that what your parents really want from you is to see you succeed. Even my pain in the ass parents wanted that for me when I was a kid.
So you need to learn how to cut the cord.
f86sabre
> Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna
05/17/2014 at 18:47 |
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stick with your first commitment. I've had coop students back out on me. That happens, without a death in the family,and they are done.